Until it gets brought to our attention, we can spend alot of time talking about what is wrong or making excuses for ourselves. Start today, noticing what IS good, acknowledging what your grateful for and appreciating all that you do have. You will be amazed at how much better life will become and the new habit of positivety will serve you well.
What we say to ourselves throughout our day has a huge impact on how we feel, especially when we are eating. I invite you to notice the dialogue going on inside your head when you’re eating.
How you feel and what you tell yourself while eating plays a very important role in the digestion and assimilation of your food. If you are a chronic dieter this could be an important key in your success.
This blog was written by Tyler Perry on Oct 30th. I think he did such a great job with this topic that I decided to share it here. Enjoy and Thanks Tyler!
Here’s a thought (I DON’T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won’t get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver’s seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car… what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction.
There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular… And that is GUILT.
I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.
I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?
You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this… guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.
How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can’t forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you’re always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.
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Oh, don’t take that the wrong way. What I mean is, I am realizing that what other people think really doesn’t matter.
I know, I have mentioned this before and it sounded good in theory but when you actually start to embody it, it is liberating. You start to realize how you may have put your wants, needs and desires in other peoples hands.
What’s even worse is, you may have stopped dreaming.
We follow instead of lead. We make excuses instead of act. We feel like victims when we could be realizing that we are in charge of our lives now.
A common question that I ask in a session with me is “what do you want?” and you know what? Most people have no idea. Because long ago, they let their wishes and dreams die. Not on purpose but because other people told them it wasn’t possible.
Another common reason is that, at the core of most people is a belief that they don’t deserve, because they are not good enough. In fact, I hear this over and over again.
It is not enough for me to remind them that in fact they are good enough and that they do deserve because they have a lifetime of references to prove me wrong.
That’s where Faster EFT comes in. A technique to challenge and change those references. You have the power inside you, to change you. All you need is a willingness to do the work.
Another helpful way to change, is pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone. That is why bringing in Nerium International is such a great opportunity. It is here that you will grow and have the foundation laid out for you to prosper as well. Allowing you to dream again.
Are you ready to take your life back?
Are you ready to see what you’re made of?
Do you know that given the right tools and opportunity you would be amazing?
I think so. That’s why I am here, to help you become who you really are!
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So why am I telling you about this dream? Because it has an important message about healing. Well, it does for me.
When it’s time to deal with something, it can feel scary as hell. Fear of the unknown will do it to you every time.
Your memories, emotions and feelings, are all lurking in the background of your mind. You know that they are there because your life isn’t quite the way you want it to be. You’re struggling with your weight. You’re unhappy in your relationship, Your job is stressful .… and the only way to cope, is to distract yourself with what seems like pleasure. Food, drink, computer, shopping, etc.
If you think about focusing on the “problem,” you can feel the discomfort. Just a bit of discomfort is enough to send you to the fridge. So the thought of feeling it and dealing with it, seems like a bad idea.
You think; ‘I can’t handle this’, ‘I don’t want to deal with this’ or maybe you think that there is something wrong with you.
This a common occurrence. One that happens so fast you’re almost not aware of it. Except, like the definition of insanity… you keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking it will be different.
How many times will you think you can figure it out? No more times. Because…
In my dream, the shot represents the focusing, the blood represents the letting go of the emotions, and the fact that it didn’t hurt represents that I can do this and I will be ok. I don’t have to be afraid.
My teacher says “you can’t use logic to solve an emotional problem” It’s true! You can’t think about it, You have to feel about it.
I have done a lot of this work on myself, so I am surprised at this piece that is showing up for me. Then I remember someone once said “your not done until your dead”
Well, that bullet didn’t kill me, so I guess its time for more healing and growth.
Once again, I know we are more a like than different, I share this with you, to remind you that change doesn’t have to be scary. That you can do this too.
Together we can go to that place that scares you and release what causes you pain, Bringing your life back to one of confidence, joy and passion.
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When I first learned Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT, the process made popular by Gary Craig. I thought that it was the greatest tool ever. I still think it is quite remarkable. However, Gary had said that this was the beginning of possibilities. “The ground floor of the healing high rise” if you will.
Well, it didn’t take long before people began using it in different ways, combining it with other modalities and creating new ways to help people. One of those people was Robert G. Smith. He has created a unique combination of EFT, NLP, Hypnosis, Neuro-Science and Re-imprinting. He brings them all together and calls it ‘Faster EFT’ or more specifically; Faster Emotionally Focused Transformation. We in the biz like to call it “tapping”. J
I decided I wanted to learn more. So I went to Oklahoma to get trained in this technique. I wasn’t disappointed. I could sense right away, that this technique was going to change the way I helped people.
Faster EFT has all the elements to zap a problem and change your life. The most important part being, changing or flipping a memory. To me this was a missing piece in original EFT. Another thing I love, is that you use the individuals way of processing information to help them clear their problems. Again, another brilliant concept.
There are so many great things about Faster EFT. I encourage you to consider this form of “therapy” to help with any problems you might be having. I have seen remarkable changes happen. I do however, need to say, that some problems do take time. We have built quite the safety system in our unconscious mind and shifting that needs patience and care.
I would love to answer any questions you may have about Faster EFT. Feel free to comment below.
Like Gary, Robert gives his stuff away for free. There are over 500 videos on you tube for you to watch and learn. Go check them out and if you need help for your problems give me a call.
I went to Oklahoma last week for some training in Faster EFT. I’m not sure if it was the plane, the hotel or the work that I was doing but I somehow caught a cold. As soon as I got home I spent 3 full days sleeping and blowing my nose.
I was so excited to come back and share what I had learned and instead I was down for the count. I experienced so many thoughts and emotions while being sick, the most important being, If you don’t feel well, life is not much fun.
My husband kept telling me to relax and just fall into it. Basically to enjoy the down time. I had trouble with that. So what I did do, is tap. I used my new skill to help with the feelings I was having over being sick. I did mental tapping on my feelings and everything they represented. I tapped on my symptoms and everything they represented and I felt better.
Since I am not one to catch colds or get sick I couldn’t help but wonder if this was some sort of self sabotage at work. You may think that is some crazy talk but you might be surprised to know how often “being sick” is the perfect excuse not to do something. EVEN if you say you want the thing you now cannot do.
Have you ever made the decision to start exercising and then injured yourself?
It happens all the time. And not just with exercise.
There can be an unconscious pay off to being sick, injured or believing a belief so if you are saying you want something and it is not happening. Or if you find yourself feeling like a victim to life. I encourage you to tap on it.
From infancy a baby will learn to sooth itself. Sucking their thumb or as I did, my two fingers and twirling my hair. As we grow, these habits are frowned upon and we are told that it is not ok.
As children we are experiencing so many emotions that we don’t understand. We are not sure what to do with all of our thoughts and feelings and without a healthy way to express, along with no coping or soothing mechanism, children will often “develop” all sorts of “symptoms”. Often times these “symptoms” are misdiagnosed and a child is quickly labeled and or medicated. This leads to more bad feelings about self which can lead to even more distructive behaviors.
The good news is…It does’nt have to be that way for your child. With techniques like Faster EFT your child can learn a healthy way to not only sooth themselves but heal any unconsious thoughts that have already started to disrupt their lives and sense of self.
I have worked with countless adults and their issues. You probably won’t be suprised to know that the healing is done with the childhood memories because this is where the problems start. We have the opportunity now to help children at a very young age, learn healthy ways to help themselves so that as they grow and mature they will be less likely to develop unhealthy coping habits like eating disorders, drinking, cutting, drugs and more.
Below is a video of an 8 yr old client of mine who has already embraced this coping tool. By starting young she will definitely benefit as she continues to grow.
If your child is experiencing signs of distress please consider trying something “new” and give them the gift of empowerment.
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