So why am I telling you about this dream? Because it has an important message about healing. Well, it does for me.

When it’s time to deal with something, it can feel scary as hell. Fear of the unknown will do it to you every time.

Your memories, emotions and feelings, are all lurking in the background of your mind. You know that they are there because your life isn’t quite the way you want it to be. You’re struggling with your weight. You’re unhappy in your relationship, Your job is stressful .… and the only way to cope, is to distract yourself with what seems like pleasure. Food, drink, computer, shopping, etc.

If you think about focusing on the “problem,” you can feel the discomfort. Just a bit of discomfort is enough to send you to the fridge. So the thought of feeling it and dealing with it, seems like a bad idea.

You think; ‘I can’t handle this’, ‘I don’t want to deal with this’ or maybe you think that there is something wrong with you.

This a common occurrence. One that happens so fast you’re almost not aware of it. Except, like the definition of insanity… you keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking it will be different.

How many times will you think you can figure it out?   No more times.  Because…

In my dream, the shot represents the focusing, the blood represents the letting go of the emotions, and the fact that it didn’t hurt represents that I can do this and I will be ok. I don’t have to be afraid.

My teacher says “you can’t use logic to solve an emotional problem” It’s true! You can’t think about it, You have to feel about it.

I have done a lot of this work on myself, so I am surprised at this piece that is showing up for me. Then I remember someone once said “your not done until your dead”

Well, that bullet didn’t kill me, so I guess its time for more healing and growth.

Once again, I know we are more a like than different, I share this with you, to remind you that change doesn’t have to be scary. That you can do this too.

Together we can go to that place that scares you and release what causes you pain,  Bringing your life back to one of confidence, joy and passion.

Call today, Start change tomorrow!

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Well, it didn’t take long before people began using it in different ways, combining it with other modalities and creating new ways to help people. One of those people was Robert G. Smith. He has created a unique combination of EFT, NLP, Hypnosis, Neuro-Science and Re-imprinting. He brings them all together and calls it ‘Faster EFT’ or more specifically; Faster Emotionally Focused Transformation. We in the biz like to call it “tapping”. J

I decided I wanted to learn more. So I went to Oklahoma to get trained in this technique. I wasn’t disappointed. I could sense right away, that this technique was going to change the way I helped people.

Faster EFT has all the elements to zap a problem and change your life. The most important part being, changing or flipping a memory. To me this was a missing piece in original EFT. Another thing I love, is that you use the individuals way of processing information to help them clear their problems. Again, another brilliant concept.

There are so many great things about Faster EFT. I encourage you to consider this form of “therapy” to help with any problems you might be having. I have seen remarkable changes happen. I do however, need to say, that some problems do take time. We have built quite the safety system in our unconscious mind and shifting that needs patience and care.

I would love to answer any questions you may have about Faster EFT. Feel free to comment below.

Like Gary, Robert gives his stuff away for free. There are over 500 videos on you tube for you to watch and learn. Go check them out and if you need help for your problems give me a call.

I was so excited to come back and share what I had learned and instead I was down for the count. I experienced so many thoughts and emotions while being sick, the most important being, If you don’t feel well, life is not much fun.

My husband kept telling me to relax and just fall into it. Basically to enjoy the down time. I had trouble with that. So what I did do, is tap. I used my new skill to help with the feelings I was having over being sick. I did mental tapping on my feelings and everything they represented. I tapped on my symptoms and everything they represented and I felt better.

Since I am not one to catch colds or get sick I couldn’t help but wonder if this was some sort of self sabotage at work. You may think that is some crazy talk but you might be surprised to know how often “being sick” is the perfect excuse not to do something. EVEN if you say you want the thing you now cannot do.

Have you ever made the decision to start exercising and then injured yourself?

It happens all the time. And not just with exercise.

There can be an unconscious pay off to being sick, injured or believing a belief so if you are saying you want something and it is not happening. Or if you find yourself feeling like a victim to life. I encourage you to tap on it.

As children we are experiencing so many emotions that we don’t understand. We are not sure what to do with all of our thoughts and feelings and without a healthy way to express, along with no coping or soothing mechanism, children will often “develop” all sorts of “symptoms”.  Often times these “symptoms” are misdiagnosed and a child is quickly labeled and or medicated. This leads to more bad feelings about self  which can lead to even more distructive behaviors.

The good news is…It does’nt have to be that way for your child. With techniques like Faster EFT your child can learn a healthy way to not only sooth themselves but heal any unconsious thoughts that have already started to disrupt their lives and  sense of self.

I have worked with countless adults and their issues. You probably won’t be suprised to know that the healing is done with the childhood memories because this is where the problems start. We have the opportunity now to help children at a very young age, learn healthy ways to help themselves so that as they grow and mature they will be less likely to develop unhealthy coping habits like eating disorders, drinking, cutting, drugs and more.

Below is a video of an 8 yr old client of mine who has already embraced this coping tool. By starting young she will definitely benefit as she continues to grow.

If your child is experiencing signs of distress please consider trying something “new” and give them the gift of empowerment.

Lori

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An interesting thing happened yesterday. After 3 weeks of eating well and feeling for the most part satisfied…….I had a meltdown. I felt fat, ugly, disappointed and just pissed off. My first thought and my second thought, was that all this healthy eating was for nothing. I mean shouldn’t I have some pay off for not eating crappy food? Why don’t I feel fit and happy? I wanted to go mow down as much starchy, sweet things as I could just to prove something.

My husband picked up on my mood and asked me what was wrong. Boy did he get an ear full. Bless his heart. He listen to me bitch and complain and then he said, “Lori, It‘s not like your overweight, you have always kept your weight in check. You know how to eat and you have taught me so much about nutrition, listening to your body and feeding it real food. This is what happens to you when you don’t allow yourself to eat something that is good for you and works for you. You get angry.”

He was right and he was being my voice of reason. I couldn’t hear my own truth because of all the expectations, judgments and critical self talk that had taken over my mind and then my emotions.

I know for a fact that all women go through this. We put ourselves on a plan with a certain expectation and when our bodies don’t cooperate we think all our effort was a waste of time. It’s not. Every time we choose to eat healthy foods we win.

So, what happened to me? On Tuesday I felt great, on Wednesday the meltdown. It’s two things. One, I think I am a little hormonal and two, and the most likely, I realized I had given my power away to “the plan”.

I have a BIG problem with “don’t tell me what I can and can’t eat” when it’s happening inside my head. So yesterday I wanted a sandwich. I told myself I couldn’t because bread wasn’t on the plan. (even though, my commitment to the plan ended on Monday, I was still following it.) So I could have had a sandwich but I was telling myself “NO”, that’s what set me off.

Once my husband reminded me that I could eat a sandwich if I wanted, I felt better.

I realize this is kind of a crazy story but we women, our bodies and the things we say to ourselves, is crazy.

So, I leave you with this. You always have a choice. When you make that choice does it feel good and support your vision or does it feel bad and go against your vision. Make your choices consciously because your emotional attitude about it is an important key.

Lori

FYI, healthy eating support and accountability class coming in March.

I remember the excitement of learning the cheers and practicing them (all the time and everywhere). The thrill of my first uniform and the nervousness of performing at the first game.

I knew I had found my calling. I loved everything about being a cheerleader and I set my sights on becoming a High school cheerleader and then the ultimate…….

A Dallas Cowboy’s Cheerleader. Yes, that was my dream.

I never did become a Cowboy’s cheerleader but I did embody my love of cheering, the essence, if you will, of what “being a cheerleader” means to me.

Today I’m still a cheerleader, I am YOUR cheerleader. Using my skills to inspire, excite and support you on your transformational journey.

It’s about your life. Coaching and cheering you on to participate fully. Going after your dreams, reminding you that you matter. That you have special talents and quality’s that make you an important part of life.

Some may say that my dream didn’t come true and that dreams don’t come true. I beg to differ. My dream did come true it just took on a different shape.

Take a moment to reflect on your childhood dreams……

Do you see a connection to your life today?

Are your passions a part of your life?

Have you given up on dreams?

It’s never to late to change your life. If your ready, I am here to cheer you on, as well as provide Coaching, Counseling and Healing, so that you can become who you really are and start living YOUR Dreams!

Call me today, start change tomorrow.

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The healthy eating plan has been going pretty darn good. As I enter into week 3 I do find myself craving some “hearty food” After consuming more vegetables in the past 2 weeks than I have in probably my entire life I am wanting heavy, chewy, sink your teeth into kind of food. Since I haven’t been eating much starch I’m guessing that is why. So I will start adding some healthy starches to my meals.

Here are a few things I have noticed on this plan.

I am basically satisfied. sure I have an occasional craving but it is usually because I am bored or wanting some emotional connection.

It has taken me a little while to get used to all the fiber. (I don’t think i need to elaborate) The key was to drink  more water.

The last thing is, I have to plan. There is no way around it. I have to think about foods and how I can prepare them to make them tasty. I have to prep my veggies so they are easy to get to. I need to have what I am choosing to eat on hand and semi ready for consumption.

Yes it takes a little work but it is becoming a habit and I am enjoying the feeling of eating healthy.

On the Coaching front.

The first 2 weeks were surprising as I found myself in a vulnerable state. It was a humbling experience  realizing where I was out of balance in my life and what was missing. The great thing is, once you know, you can change. It is refreshing and enlightening to be in the position of being coached as opposed to being the coach. I am learning what is helpful and what is not (from my perspective of course).

Here are a few things I’ve learned so far.

Writing is important. Having a place to write your thoughts, ideas, observations, as well as dump your overwhelm and frustration is essential. Keeping track of the good things, the things that bring you joy, is also important and essential. Basically get used to writing. It free’s up your mind and helps with stress.

An action step is all it takes to set things in motion. Here is one thing I did. I wanted to learn to knit so I looked for a meetup group. There I read about a starter kit that you could purchase on amazon. I ordered it and once it arrived I got started. However, I had a hard time understanding the written directions so I went to youtube where some nice lady showed me how to knit. Look what I’ve done so far!

As far as the business side of things. (which was why I got a coach) there isn’t much to tell. It should be no suprise to me that the personal issues are directly tied to business development and still here I am slapping myself on the head and saying. “duh!”  So as I work on the personal stuff I am sure changes will happen in the business.

Stay tuned.

It’s important to remember that the stuff we throw away doesn’t go away — it goes to a landfill where it is buried … and there it stays — for years and years.

But this post isn’t about trash. This is about your personal, emotional landfill.

We all have our own emotional landfill inside of us where we bury the hurts, the disappointments and all the unresolved emotional traumas that we don’t want to deal with and, like the trash, it doesn’t go away. It stays there and pollutes our personal environment and can become fuel for our fears.

The hurt we felt the first time someone broke our heart is still there — and fuels the fear of getting too close to someone.

The disappointment we felt when we didn’t make the team is still there — and fuels the fear of not being good enough.

The rejection we felt when our parents didn’t have time to play with us is still there — and fuels the fear of not being loveable.

We bury the anger, the tears, the rejection, the grief, all of the feelings and emotions that we don’t want to deal with.

We pretend that we’re fine and we cope, until one day we realize that we have a problem. Physically, mentally or emotionally, those buried traumas surface. Because burying things, whether it’s trash or feelings, doesn’t make it go away.

Like the earth we can only handle so much before we start to break down.

So what do you do when you find yourself faced with “emotional trash”?

1. Remember that they are just emotions and it’s ok to have them. I don’t think anyone has ever died from crying or screaming.

2. Recognize the meaning that you are giving the emotion. Does feeling sad mean that you are weak? You can change that meaning.

3. Notice if you have an attachment to keeping the emotional trauma. Do you believe it keeps you safe? This is pretty common.

4. Be willing to face what you perceive to be painful, feel it, move it, replace it and be done.

I understand this sounds simplistic and actually it is. But it’s your curiosity, courage and commitment to do the work that can be challenging.

That’s why I’m here, to help you through the process of disposing of your emotional trash in a healthy way.

Good for you, good for the environment!

Call me today, start change tomorrow

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One of the best times of my life was when I was living in Grand Cayman. I really didn’t understand why it was so awesome until this moment. Everyday I had connection and community. Here we were, a bunch of ex-pats creating this home away from home feeling. Daily I spent time with new friends that became good friends. We talked and shared. We didn’t have the demands or responsibilities of “regular” life. Sure, we had to work and pay our bills but that was about it. None of us had a car. We biked, took the bus or bummed a ride to where we needed to go. We hung out a lot and I loved it. 

So here I am, realizing that I really miss connecting, and hanging out with people. When I am not making time for that, I get sad. Wow, what a revelation. 

I also realized that during this time I might also feel like eating or maybe going to buy myself something — anything to not feel the feeling. So it is a relief to find out what it is that I really need and make some changes to bring more connection into my life. 

I share my awareness because I know I am not alone. There are many of you struggling with similar feelings. There are also many of you that are having trouble finding balance in your life. 

I encourage you to take the time to be with the uncomfortable feelings and notice the message that is there for you. Maybe you need more connection too. Or, Maybe you need some alone time because you are always connecting. The important thing is to listen and then do what you can to create balance in your life. 

Do you need connection? Or

Do you need alone time? 

What will make your heart smile? 

Let me know, I would love to hear from you.

For starters, it just so happens that I won an opportunity to try out a new eating plan just for women. (I purposely did not use the word diet, but that is what it is) I cant tell you what it is yet but I will be talking about my journey on it. Then when I am done and I get permission I will tell you what it is and how to get it. Assuming I love it and get healthy results.

My goals are simple, 1. Feel more energetic. (so I can get things done) and 2. Feel comfortable in my clothes. (they were getting a little snug) I don’t own a scale so I cant tell you about the weight loss, but I don’t need a scale to tell me if I am fat or feeling unhealthy.

So far, I am loving it because you get to eat fat. In my past experiences I have always found this works for me. Fat helps you feel full and satisfied. Because of this one little thing, I feel that this will be a do-able plan.

I will tell you the one thing I am not liking right now, is the focus on food. I am thinking about it all the time. I don’t usually do that. I just eat something when I am hungry. Now I have to think about it, plan, shop and put the right portions and combinations together. Kind of a hassle, but It will be automatic soon. Remember if you don’t keep your goals conscious, you just do the things your use to. What we are looking for is change and that does take some effort.

I admit my eating was a little crazy for the last few months, add to that I haven’t been to the gym since August. So I needed to do something to put some focus on my health, even though I am pretty healthy ( I think!)

Also in my awareness is working on some fun business ideas and hopefully getting my book done. I also want to take a great vacation.

So, check back here and join me on my journey. I hope to inspire and motivate you to take charge of your life and create what you want most. You can learn from my mistakes and get some helpful hints. Feel free to comment and ask me questions caus we are all in this together…lets have some fun!