Right in the left shoulder, I didn’t feel any pain and I wondered if I had really been shot. I looked down and saw the blood. I remember thinking, “oh well, at least it doesn’t hurt.” Then I woke up.

So why am I telling you about this dream? Because it has an important message about healing. Well, it does for me.

When it’s time to deal with something, it can feel scary as hell. Fear of the unknown will do it to you every time.

Your memories, emotions and feelings, are all lurking in the background of your mind. You know that they are there because your life isn’t quite the way you want it to be. You’re struggling with your weight. You’re unhappy in your relationship, Your job is stressful .… and the only way to cope, is to distract yourself with what seems like pleasure. Food, drink, computer, shopping, etc.

If you think about focusing on the “problem,” you can feel the discomfort. Just a bit of discomfort is enough to send you to the fridge. So the thought of feeling it and dealing with it, seems like a bad idea.

You think; ‘I can’t handle this’, ‘I don’t want to deal with this’ or maybe you think that there is something wrong with you.

This a common occurrence. One that happens so fast you’re almost not aware of it. Except, like the definition of insanity… you keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking it will be different.

How many times will you think you can figure it out?   No more times.  Because…

In my dream, the shot represents the focusing, the blood represents the letting go of the emotions, and the fact that it didn’t hurt represents that I can do this and I will be ok. I don’t have to be afraid.

My teacher says “you can’t use logic to solve an emotional problem” It’s true! You can’t think about it, You have to feel about it.

I have done a lot of this work on myself, so I am surprised at this piece that is showing up for me. Then I remember someone once said “your not done until your dead”

Well, that bullet didn’t kill me, so I guess its time for more healing and growth.

Once again, I know we are more a like than different, I share this with you, to remind you that change doesn’t have to be scary. That you can do this too.

Together we can go to that place that scares you and release what causes you pain,  Bringing your life back to one of confidence, joy and passion.

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When I first learned Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT, the process made popular by Gary Craig. I thought that it was the greatest tool ever. I still think it is quite remarkable. However, Gary had said that this was the beginning of possibilities. “The ground floor of the healing high rise” if you will.

Well, it didn’t take long before people began using it in different ways, combining it with other modalities and creating new ways to help people. One of those people was Robert G. Smith. He has created a unique combination of EFT, NLP, Hypnosis, Neuro-Science and Re-imprinting. He brings them all together and calls it ‘Faster EFT’ or more specifically; Faster Emotionally Focused Transformation. We in the biz like to call it “tapping”. J

I decided I wanted to learn more. So I went to Oklahoma to get trained in this technique. I wasn’t disappointed. I could sense right away, that this technique was going to change the way I helped people.

Faster EFT has all the elements to zap a problem and change your life. The most important part being, changing or flipping a memory. To me this was a missing piece in original EFT. Another thing I love, is that you use the individuals way of processing information to help them clear their problems. Again, another brilliant concept.

There are so many great things about Faster EFT. I encourage you to consider this form of “therapy” to help with any problems you might be having. I have seen remarkable changes happen. I do however, need to say, that some problems do take time. We have built quite the safety system in our unconscious mind and shifting that needs patience and care.

I would love to answer any questions you may have about Faster EFT. Feel free to comment below.

Like Gary, Robert gives his stuff away for free. There are over 500 videos on you tube for you to watch and learn. Go check them out and if you need help for your problems give me a call.

From infancy a baby will learn to sooth itself. Sucking their thumb or as I did, my two fingers and twirling my hair.  As we grow, these habits are frowned upon and we are told that it is not ok.

As children we are experiencing so many emotions that we don’t understand. We are not sure what to do with all of our thoughts and feelings and without a healthy way to express, along with no coping or soothing mechanism, children will often “develop” all sorts of “symptoms”.  Often times these “symptoms” are misdiagnosed and a child is quickly labeled and or medicated. This leads to more bad feelings about self  which can lead to even more distructive behaviors.

The good news is…It does’nt have to be that way for your child. With techniques like Faster EFT your child can learn a healthy way to not only sooth themselves but heal any unconsious thoughts that have already started to disrupt their lives and  sense of self.

I have worked with countless adults and their issues. You probably won’t be suprised to know that the healing is done with the childhood memories because this is where the problems start. We have the opportunity now to help children at a very young age, learn healthy ways to help themselves so that as they grow and mature they will be less likely to develop unhealthy coping habits like eating disorders, drinking, cutting, drugs and more.

Below is a video of an 8 yr old client of mine who has already embraced this coping tool. By starting young she will definitely benefit as she continues to grow.

If your child is experiencing signs of distress please consider trying something “new” and give them the gift of empowerment.

Lori

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Did you know that I was a cheerleader? Yep, It started when I was just a wee tot. I cheered for my brother and his Jr All American football team “The Mustangs”

I remember the excitement of learning the cheers and practicing them (all the time and everywhere). The thrill of my first uniform and the nervousness of performing at the first game.

I knew I had found my calling. I loved everything about being a cheerleader and I set my sights on becoming a High school cheerleader and then the ultimate…….

A Dallas Cowboy’s Cheerleader. Yes, that was my dream.

I never did become a Cowboy’s cheerleader but I did embody my love of cheering, the essence, if you will, of what “being a cheerleader” means to me.

Today I’m still a cheerleader, I am YOUR cheerleader. Using my skills to inspire, excite and support you on your transformational journey.

It’s about your life. Coaching and cheering you on to participate fully. Going after your dreams, reminding you that you matter. That you have special talents and quality’s that make you an important part of life.

Some may say that my dream didn’t come true and that dreams don’t come true. I beg to differ. My dream did come true it just took on a different shape.

Take a moment to reflect on your childhood dreams……

Do you see a connection to your life today?

Are your passions a part of your life?

Have you given up on dreams?

It’s never to late to change your life. If your ready, I am here to cheer you on, as well as provide Coaching, Counseling and Healing, so that you can become who you really are and start living YOUR Dreams!

Call me today, start change tomorrow.

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When you’re throwing away your trash or unwanted items do you ever wonder where it goes?

It’s important to remember that the stuff we throw away doesn’t go away — it goes to a landfill where it is buried … and there it stays — for years and years.

But this post isn’t about trash. This is about your personal, emotional landfill.

We all have our own emotional landfill inside of us where we bury the hurts, the disappointments and all the unresolved emotional traumas that we don’t want to deal with and, like the trash, it doesn’t go away. It stays there and pollutes our personal environment and can become fuel for our fears.

The hurt we felt the first time someone broke our heart is still there — and fuels the fear of getting too close to someone.

The disappointment we felt when we didn’t make the team is still there — and fuels the fear of not being good enough.

The rejection we felt when our parents didn’t have time to play with us is still there — and fuels the fear of not being loveable.

We bury the anger, the tears, the rejection, the grief, all of the feelings and emotions that we don’t want to deal with.

We pretend that we’re fine and we cope, until one day we realize that we have a problem. Physically, mentally or emotionally, those buried traumas surface. Because burying things, whether it’s trash or feelings, doesn’t make it go away.

Like the earth we can only handle so much before we start to break down.

So what do you do when you find yourself faced with “emotional trash”?

1. Remember that they are just emotions and it’s ok to have them. I don’t think anyone has ever died from crying or screaming.

2. Recognize the meaning that you are giving the emotion. Does feeling sad mean that you are weak? You can change that meaning.

3. Notice if you have an attachment to keeping the emotional trauma. Do you believe it keeps you safe? This is pretty common.

4. Be willing to face what you perceive to be painful, feel it, move it, replace it and be done.

I understand this sounds simplistic and actually it is. But it’s your curiosity, courage and commitment to do the work that can be challenging.

That’s why I’m here, to help you through the process of disposing of your emotional trash in a healthy way.

Good for you, good for the environment!

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I love my alone time. There is nothing better than being by myself, with nothing but my thoughts and the freedom of puttering around. But, too much and I am a sad girl. I have recently become aware of this about myself. There have been a few days in the past that I have noticed this feeling.  I couldn’t quite place it — kind of sad, kind of lonely, kind of unmotivated. You know, just sort of bored. I did a mental checklist of my life. I couldn’t find anything that I thought would support these feelings. Then it came to me. I need connection. 

One of the best times of my life was when I was living in Grand Cayman. I really didn’t understand why it was so awesome until this moment. Everyday I had connection and community. Here we were, a bunch of ex-pats creating this home away from home feeling. Daily I spent time with new friends that became good friends. We talked and shared. We didn’t have the demands or responsibilities of “regular” life. Sure, we had to work and pay our bills but that was about it. None of us had a car. We biked, took the bus or bummed a ride to where we needed to go. We hung out a lot and I loved it. 

So here I am, realizing that I really miss connecting, and hanging out with people. When I am not making time for that, I get sad. Wow, what a revelation. 

I also realized that during this time I might also feel like eating or maybe going to buy myself something — anything to not feel the feeling. So it is a relief to find out what it is that I really need and make some changes to bring more connection into my life. 

I share my awareness because I know I am not alone. There are many of you struggling with similar feelings. There are also many of you that are having trouble finding balance in your life. 

I encourage you to take the time to be with the uncomfortable feelings and notice the message that is there for you. Maybe you need more connection too. Or, Maybe you need some alone time because you are always connecting. The important thing is to listen and then do what you can to create balance in your life. 

Do you need connection? Or

Do you need alone time? 

What will make your heart smile? 

Let me know, I would love to hear from you.

“ After many hours of class and lots of experiential learning behind me. I sat across from my teacher and asked ……….

“If this isn’t who I am, then who am I ?”

He smiled and gave me a look that implied (ah grasshopper, you finally ask the right question)…. that was my answer! no words, no insight, just a look that told me I was going to have to figure that out for myself and the mire fact that I’d asked meant I was about to start down another road of self discovery.

Who am I? …………. I thought I knew.

Most of us think we know who we are by defining ourselves, by likes and dislikes or what we do for a living. We even define ourselves by our past experiences of success and failure. But is that who we really are?

Do you ever have the feeling that you are more?”

I wrote the above a few years ago. Recently while reading “The Jeshua Channelings” by Pamela Kribbe.  I came upon the following. It is not copied in it’s entirety, to read the whole thing visit www.Jeshua.net and look under “from ego to heart II

“When you stop identifying yourself with the ego, you first get into a state of confusion as to who you are. This confusion can be profound and very philosophical in nature. You get to ask questions about the meaning of life, about good and bad, about what you really feel and think as opposed to what others have taught you to feel and think. These questions are suddenly very real to you and they have a direct bearing on the life choices you make. You look at yourself and you think: is this me? Is this what I want? It is hard to make choices now, since nothing is self-evident anymore.

In fact, you are now taking a step backwards, a step into the deep, a step inward. You become aware of deeper parts of yourself, parts that are less conditioned by your upbringing and by society. You receive glimpses of who you truly are: your uniqueness, your individuality. You remember that there is a part to you that is not dependent upon anything around you, your parents, your work, your relationships, not even your body. This is when you – vaguely – sense your divinity, the part of you that is completely unbound and eternal.

In fact, you are all multidimensional beings; you can and do manifest yourselves in several different realities at the same time. You are not bound to a linear timeframe. Your current personality is only one aspect of the multidimensional entity you are. Whenever you realize that your current expression as a physical human being is simply one aspect of you, you go beyond it and you can get in touch with the greater Self that you are.

But before you get there, you need to heal the wounded parts within you.”

Please visit

www.jeshua.netto read more. It may help you understand more about yourself so that you are able to “let go” and move towards who you really are!

If  you are need of  guidance and support, please contact me for help.

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I dont usually read my teenage step-daughter’s homework but the other day I came across this.

Her assignment was to write a poem about WWI and what spilled out of her was this. I was so moved I just had to share it with you all.

Someday

The grey clouds overhead like
1,000 spirits over their fragile bodies
Sounds of sorrow surround the grimy dirt trenches
The reek of dead bodies and mud
Fill my nostrils, I feel suffocated
I bow my head to think

I see a red track underneath my bare feet
Im struggling to arrive to the “field hospital”
They call it that, but its really just a tent
My white hat symbolizes hope
In the eyes of our men, wasted skeletons
I carry a first aid kit on my frail, pathetic back
Awaiting my next patient

Sitting on a jagged rock I put my stethoscope around my neck
A young, one-armed man staggers toward me
His back is arched, his uniform is disheveled
His eyes seem be already lifeless
As he lies on his side, I confidently tell him,
“Everything will be over soon,” while dabbing his wounds with a soiled rag
I ask him to tell me what hurts the most
No answer

His heart is coming to a halt
His mind is becoming peaceful
I pray for a day of this stillness, with no war or conflict
Though there seems to be no end in sight
Like a tunnel with no light,
Someday,
Someday there will be

–Rachael Barnett

If you are like me, you’re probably looking for a tissue.
For those veterans still affected by war I offer my services at a special rate.

A lot of people are going through or have been going through “rough times” be it financially or emotionally. Id like to share this with you…………..

If you want to change your life, you must check in with how you are feeling about what you want. That’s the simple and only rule you need to follow. Your feelings must be lined up with (or “match”) your wants in order for emotional and physical results to follow and show up in your life.

When you make a statement about your want ~for example

“I want to make $100,000. a year” What is the thought that follows? How do you feel? If it sounds something like this………

“Yah right, nobody in my family can make that” “ I could never, Its impossible” . or maybe there is judgment. “People with alot of money are jerks”  The feelings then would be hopelessness, despair, frustration, maybe even anger. Your body will also give you clues to the “truth” of the statement. Say your want out loud.. How does it feel in your body? If there is resistance you will feel heavy, If it is true you will feel light.

So, if your feeling is heavy and your thoughts are negative… how do you change this?

The fastest and easiest way I have found to help you improve your feelings is using EFT. No matter where you are emotionally, using EFT can change how you feel about any subject. Changing your feeling from despair to hopefulness or from resentment to peace would do wonders for improving your emotional state. When your emotional state is “higher” or lighter, you are naturally more tuned in to the desires you want in your life. And while anger, hurt and resentment are all legitimate feelings…..  when experiencing these emotions repeatedly, you are vibrating in a place that will NOT attract what you want into your life.

While I like to wallow every once in a while…  dwelling on negative feelings does not empower you and of course, does nothing to resolve any situation.

We really can, be, do and have anything we want. We just have to get out of our own way. (Meaning addressing how we really feel about whatever it is.)

Maybe you need some help, discovering where you are sabotaging your efforts at change.

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Have you had times in your life where you hoped someone else would be different? You believed your life would be better, happier more fulfilling, If only they, your partner, your boss, your friend…. would change. –Your very happiness depending on another person to be and act the way you think they should?

Believe it or not, this is how most of us live. Judging others and blaming them for our pain and suffering. Trying to coax and manipulate to get things our way. But, what is really going on here?

The first thing that comes to mind is expectation. ‘We’, according to our thoughts and beliefs, expect people in our life to behave in a way that we deem acceptable to us. If they are not meeting our expectation, we are upset, frustrated, angry and host of other emotions. Since these emotions do not feel good, we suffer.

What if, you took responsibility for your emotions. What if you looked to the real reason you feel the way you do?

In the book “Conversations with God,” by Neale Donald Walsch it says; “It doesn’t matter what the other is being, doing, having, saying, wanting, demanding. It doesn’t matter what the other is thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that”.

Meaning, you are the only one in charge of your  thinking and reactions to how another person is being. You will have a life time of suffering if you expect people to be anything other than who they are.

I always say “If it’s not a problem for you, It’s not a problem.” A person has to decide for themselves when their life is not working for them. Look to yourself first to make  changes or accept what is. You choose.

Are you feeling aggravated, frustrated, disappointed in another? Ask yourself “what is this really about“? How are you feeling and what does it remind you of? My personal and professional experience show’s me, it is NEVER about the other person.

It takes courage to look honestly at yourself. To look within and address the pain of your past. Our unconscious fear of this pain is what keeps us projecting it onto other people. It is however, why it shows up. For you to heal, grow and have peace.

What if, You could allow another to be who they are? Allow them to have their journey? Accept them and love them, no matter what. AND What if, you could love and accept yourself in the process?

If you did that, You will have peace.