“ After many hours of class and lots of experiential learning behind me. I sat across from my teacher and asked ……….

“If this isn’t who I am, then who am I ?”

He smiled and gave me a look that implied (ah grasshopper, you finally ask the right question)…. that was my answer! no words, no insight, just a look that told me I was going to have to figure that out for myself and the mire fact that I’d asked meant I was about to start down another road of self discovery.

Who am I? …………. I thought I knew.

Most of us think we know who we are by defining ourselves, by likes and dislikes or what we do for a living. We even define ourselves by our past experiences of success and failure. But is that who we really are?

Do you ever have the feeling that you are more?”

I wrote the above a few years ago. Recently while reading “The Jeshua Channelings” by Pamela Kribbe.  I came upon the following. It is not copied in it’s entirety, to read the whole thing visit www.Jeshua.net and look under “from ego to heart II

“When you stop identifying yourself with the ego, you first get into a state of confusion as to who you are. This confusion can be profound and very philosophical in nature. You get to ask questions about the meaning of life, about good and bad, about what you really feel and think as opposed to what others have taught you to feel and think. These questions are suddenly very real to you and they have a direct bearing on the life choices you make. You look at yourself and you think: is this me? Is this what I want? It is hard to make choices now, since nothing is self-evident anymore.

In fact, you are now taking a step backwards, a step into the deep, a step inward. You become aware of deeper parts of yourself, parts that are less conditioned by your upbringing and by society. You receive glimpses of who you truly are: your uniqueness, your individuality. You remember that there is a part to you that is not dependent upon anything around you, your parents, your work, your relationships, not even your body. This is when you – vaguely – sense your divinity, the part of you that is completely unbound and eternal.

In fact, you are all multidimensional beings; you can and do manifest yourselves in several different realities at the same time. You are not bound to a linear timeframe. Your current personality is only one aspect of the multidimensional entity you are. Whenever you realize that your current expression as a physical human being is simply one aspect of you, you go beyond it and you can get in touch with the greater Self that you are.

But before you get there, you need to heal the wounded parts within you.”

Please visit

www.jeshua.netto read more. It may help you understand more about yourself so that you are able to “let go” and move towards who you really are!

If  you are need of  guidance and support, please contact me for help.

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I dont usually read my teenage step-daughter’s homework but the other day I came across this.

Her assignment was to write a poem about WWI and what spilled out of her was this. I was so moved I just had to share it with you all.

Someday

The grey clouds overhead like
1,000 spirits over their fragile bodies
Sounds of sorrow surround the grimy dirt trenches
The reek of dead bodies and mud
Fill my nostrils, I feel suffocated
I bow my head to think

I see a red track underneath my bare feet
Im struggling to arrive to the “field hospital”
They call it that, but its really just a tent
My white hat symbolizes hope
In the eyes of our men, wasted skeletons
I carry a first aid kit on my frail, pathetic back
Awaiting my next patient

Sitting on a jagged rock I put my stethoscope around my neck
A young, one-armed man staggers toward me
His back is arched, his uniform is disheveled
His eyes seem be already lifeless
As he lies on his side, I confidently tell him,
“Everything will be over soon,” while dabbing his wounds with a soiled rag
I ask him to tell me what hurts the most
No answer

His heart is coming to a halt
His mind is becoming peaceful
I pray for a day of this stillness, with no war or conflict
Though there seems to be no end in sight
Like a tunnel with no light,
Someday,
Someday there will be

–Rachael Barnett

If you are like me, you’re probably looking for a tissue.
For those veterans still affected by war I offer my services at a special rate.

A lot of people are going through or have been going through “rough times” be it financially or emotionally. Id like to share this with you…………..

If you want to change your life, you must check in with how you are feeling about what you want. That’s the simple and only rule you need to follow. Your feelings must be lined up with (or “match”) your wants in order for emotional and physical results to follow and show up in your life.

When you make a statement about your want ~for example

“I want to make $100,000. a year” What is the thought that follows? How do you feel? If it sounds something like this………

“Yah right, nobody in my family can make that” “ I could never, Its impossible” . or maybe there is judgment. “People with alot of money are jerks”  The feelings then would be hopelessness, despair, frustration, maybe even anger. Your body will also give you clues to the “truth” of the statement. Say your want out loud.. How does it feel in your body? If there is resistance you will feel heavy, If it is true you will feel light.

So, if your feeling is heavy and your thoughts are negative… how do you change this?

The fastest and easiest way I have found to help you improve your feelings is using EFT. No matter where you are emotionally, using EFT can change how you feel about any subject. Changing your feeling from despair to hopefulness or from resentment to peace would do wonders for improving your emotional state. When your emotional state is “higher” or lighter, you are naturally more tuned in to the desires you want in your life. And while anger, hurt and resentment are all legitimate feelings…..  when experiencing these emotions repeatedly, you are vibrating in a place that will NOT attract what you want into your life.

While I like to wallow every once in a while…  dwelling on negative feelings does not empower you and of course, does nothing to resolve any situation.

We really can, be, do and have anything we want. We just have to get out of our own way. (Meaning addressing how we really feel about whatever it is.)

Maybe you need some help, discovering where you are sabotaging your efforts at change.

Call me today Start change tomorrow. 858-382-4576

Have you had times in your life where you hoped someone else would be different? You believed your life would be better, happier more fulfilling, If only they, your partner, your boss, your friend…. would change. –Your very happiness depending on another person to be and act the way you think they should?

Believe it or not, this is how most of us live. Judging others and blaming them for our pain and suffering. Trying to coax and manipulate to get things our way. But, what is really going on here?

The first thing that comes to mind is expectation. ‘We’, according to our thoughts and beliefs, expect people in our life to behave in a way that we deem acceptable to us. If they are not meeting our expectation, we are upset, frustrated, angry and host of other emotions. Since these emotions do not feel good, we suffer.

What if, you took responsibility for your emotions. What if you looked to the real reason you feel the way you do?

In the book “Conversations with God,” by Neale Donald Walsch it says; “It doesn’t matter what the other is being, doing, having, saying, wanting, demanding. It doesn’t matter what the other is thinking, expecting, planning. It only matters what you are being in relationship to that”.

Meaning, you are the only one in charge of your  thinking and reactions to how another person is being. You will have a life time of suffering if you expect people to be anything other than who they are.

I always say “If it’s not a problem for you, It’s not a problem.” A person has to decide for themselves when their life is not working for them. Look to yourself first to make  changes or accept what is. You choose.

Are you feeling aggravated, frustrated, disappointed in another? Ask yourself “what is this really about“? How are you feeling and what does it remind you of? My personal and professional experience show’s me, it is NEVER about the other person.

It takes courage to look honestly at yourself. To look within and address the pain of your past. Our unconscious fear of this pain is what keeps us projecting it onto other people. It is however, why it shows up. For you to heal, grow and have peace.

What if, You could allow another to be who they are? Allow them to have their journey? Accept them and love them, no matter what. AND What if, you could love and accept yourself in the process?

If you did that, You will have peace.

The child seemed like just a normal kid that struggled in school. The parents weren’t concerned – they were confused. The parents remembered when they were in school. Some classes were easy, some were hard, but in the end it all worked out. They graduated, got a job, and the rest, as they say, “is history.“

Now they can’t understand why their child can’t get it together. Lazy, angry, moody and just plain unmotivated, is how they describe their child.

They have given their child everything they wanted and needed to make their life better. Certainly better than they had it. So why isn’t their child happy and embracing that?

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The child sits in my office, unsure of why they’re there. Everything seems overwhelming and they want it to stop. But they won’t tell me that. Their guard is up, the answers to my questions are short.

I know that behind their wall, is pain. This pain is personal.

The child has been making decisions about themselves based on all that they have been seeing, hearing and observing since birth. This has anchored limiting and core beliefs about themselves.  Family, teachers, television, coaches, peers, etc. have contributed….. unknowingly.  Thoughts of “I’m stupid” “I’m ugly” “I’m unlovable” “I can’t, so why try” “It’s never good enough” and hundreds of others run through their minds as truth.

Pressures and expectations weigh heavily on their fragile body, mind, and heart. Unequipped to handle this, it shows up in various ways. Grades, eating disorders, cutting, depressed feelings, sleeping, moodiness, etc. They try anything to get the pain to stop. Even if only a temporary solution.

Parental frustration only adds to the problem and an unhealthy relationship is born. The child hates themselves, their behavior and the extra burdens. The parents are at their wits end.

So what do you do?

Addressing the pain is the only way to heal. Providing your child with a safe place to express their feelings, while keeping your own judgment out of it.

You see, your child shouldn’t have to protect or parent you. They just want to be heard and accepted. They need to be reminded of their uniqueness, and most importantly, they need to know that they matter.

Your child wants to talk, but their confusion and insecurities hold them back. They fear judgment and disapproval.

None of this is about blaming or judging your parenting skills. It is to suggest that there may be another way to help your child.

Here are a few suggestions and questions to get started.

• Start by looking at your own fears and how they are affecting your child.
• Notice if what you want for your child is really what they want.
• Are you assuming you know how they feel and what they need?
• Do you try to fix a problem instead of just listening?

It’s not always easy to be neutral when it comes to your child so it may be helpful to find a professional.

Look for an alternative practitioner that understands this holistic approach, and is using new and effective techniques. Look for someone who will not only teach your child extremely useful coping skills but address and heal the core pain as well. Look for someone your child feels safe with.

Often times parents will need a little help too. Because they were also children, and they too may have less than positive beliefs about themselves.

Remember, there is hope, there is help.

I am one of those people who likes to do things myself. I am usually thinking….. “why pay someone to do something when I can do it myself”

Whether it’s painting the house, cleaning, or repairing something. I feel capable, so why not?

The thing is, I also feel this way about my emotional and mental health. I figure since I am so smart and helpful to other people I surely can help myself.

What I have learned is.. When your ‘in it’ it is really hard to see things objectively. We have a set of core beliefs that drive our thoughts and ultimately our behaviors. We often feel powerless to stop the things that drive us crazy. We can’t get out of our own way and we end up saying “I know I have a problem but I don’t know how to fix it”. This process can end up making us feel like failures. Leading us to believe that there is something wrong with us. We should be perfect….. Right?

It’s very easy to get caught up in this cycle and it will manifest in unhealthy behaviors. The constant negative chatter in your mind will drive you to do things to try and make it stop. Then your problem now becomes bigger.

So, what can you do?

Well, obviously you can seek help. Getting a new perspective and understanding of why you do what you do. Finding out what is driving your behaviors and changing or healing them.

But, If your like me and want to do it yourself, then your going to have to make some radical changes in your life and pay attention to what your feeling. It’s not easy. It takes looking at your self as honestly as you can. It takes asking others for feedback and really listening. It takes reading, learning and lots of experiential exercises. It takes work.

Does that sound too hard?

Well, sometimes it is. There are times when even do it yourselfers like me need help.

I love using my own experience to help others. I know change is not easy but it can be fun, exciting and interesting. (yes, I said fun!) I am always honored when someone chooses to go on their journey with me. It may be just be for a kick start or for the long haul, either way you will learn that behind all the ‘problems’ is a beautiful soul trying to escape. Wanting to ‘be’ all that it knows it can.

Are you feeling frustrated, stuck and overwhelmed? Are you tired of feeling alone in your quest for peace and well being? Are you blaming all your outside problems for your inside problems? Are you thinking “if only”? I understand and I can help. Call me today, start change tomorrow. 858.382.4576

I was recently told about a book called ’29 Gifts’ as well as its accompanying website. Intrigued, I checked it out. I watched the video on the home page and  thought it was a great story and a great idea. I wondered though, “Can conscious giving really change your life?”   I decided to take the challenge.

On the first day as I thought about how I could give, what is giving,  what counts as giving and so on. I discovered that I already give alot.  However, I had no idea…or at least not consciously aware of it. I just do what I do. 

In my mind, I thought I wasn’t a giver at all.  Hence the intrigue of the challenge.

On the very first day of the conscious giving challenge, I received a gift.  A gift that will change how I view myself and will indeed change my life.

So, can conscious giving change your life? I certainly think so.

I invite you to take the challenge and be sure and let me know how it goes.  www.29gifts.org

Do you need a coach?

Do you need a counselor?

Do you need a healer?

Sometimes its difficult to figure out the best course of action to take for your particular state of mind.

Typically, one would go to a coach to get specific “help”. To find a job, losing weight, finding a mate etc.

A counselor would be right if you are needing a little more than a coach can offer. Maybe some insight as to why getting the one thing you want has never worked out.

A healer can help clear the blocks, heal the traumas and resolve past issues that are discovered in the process of coaching and counseling.

Wouldn’t it be great to have all three rolled into one?

That’s who I am and what I do. I am able to meet you where you are and give you the structure, the tools, the encouragement and the healing that is needed in the moment.

Here’s a scenario of why having three in one is the most beneficial for you.

Lets say Jane comes to me to lose weight. She has been struggling with her size for as long as she can remember. She has tried everything and nothing has worked so she turns to me for coaching, she feels she needs someone who will who will help her figure out a plan and wants someone to be accountable to.

Along the way Jane and I realize she is constantly stressed out from work and absolutely hates her job. All of her worries are causing her to deviate from our work in the “coaching” department. So I move into the counseling aspect and as we keep meeting I notice that Jane never fully followed her passions and she is living the life of her fathers dream for her, not her own.

She now feels like she has wasted her life and most of all she realizes this is why she overeats. She explains to me how she has never been able to “live her life” on her own terms. She feels angry and resentful and is ready to face her fears.

 This is where the healing comes in. We address and completely diminish those hurt feelings and the need to feel accepted by her father. Quite quickly, Jane’s life starts to change, almost with out effort. Her eating habits change, her mind and way of thinking changes and her willingness to take action and start on a journey to become who she really is takes flight.

This example is to help you understand how using different tools, ideas and processes, can help you to stop sabotaging your efforts at change and finally get what you want.

Call me today to see how I can help you. 858-382-4576

?This clip features college baseball champion Jorge Reyes tapping on himself during a high-stakes finals game. EFT in Sports Jorge was taught EFT by a remarkable sports coach, Greg Warburton. After learning EFT, Jorge and the Oregon State baseball team won the College World Series – then went on to win it an unprecedented second time!

EFT is slowly making its way into professional and college sports, thanks to the efforts of coaches like Greg. Greg and I did a study at Oregon State University in which basketball players were randomized into an EFT group and a placebo group. The group that received EFT scored 38% better on free throws after just 15 minutes of EFT! Greg has gone on to train numerous college golf, tennis, basketball, and other sportspeople in the basics of EFT, and some of these athletes are becoming professional sports stars.

Do you want to learn EFT? Call me today! 858.382.4576